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Neurosis and personality lack proper care

Seek Handmade Bracelets Beaded Bracelets Heart Necklace Beaded Necklaces help from most people of the psychologist's, either there is neurosis, or suffer from personality and lack proper care. They result from going wrong in sense of duty, it display symptom but on the contrary: Neurosis patient force responsibility for oneself, suffer from personality unregulated people but unwilling to bear responsibility. Conflict with external world and the contradiction, patient think neurosis wrong in oneself, but the unregulated disease patient of personality imputes the mistake to other people. Preceding the officer that get drunk, think responsibility in Okinawa, in himself; And that soldier's wife thinks, she is powerless in the face of being lonely. I have still received a lady who suffers from neurosis during working in Okinawa, the excessive loneliness makes her insufferable. She says: "I will reach armyman's family's club by car every day, hope to get to know the new friend 


The friend, but that place always lets me unset, I feel other soldier's wives are unwilling to be with me, I think I must have some questions, my personality may be too introversive. Am I unable to understand, why am I unwelcome? " This lady has thought oneself is the most unfortunate person in the world, it is totally one's own result to think to be lonely. The treatment finds, the problem lies in her IQ is higher than the ordinary person, enterprising spirit is stronger than common people too. She, other officer's wives and husband are incompatible, because compare with them, her IQ is higher, enterprising spirit is stronger. She realize, feel lonely finally, what a heavy shortcoming it is no one's own. In this way, she makes the choice suitable for oneself: She divorces husband, will get back to the campus, will raise the child while studying in the near future. She nowadays works as the editor in a magazine office, marries a successful publisher.

Neurosis patient often "  I actually could "  , " whether perhaps I it's time "  , " whether I it's time "  Chat about. No matter do anything, they think ability is inferior to others, they lack courage and distinction. Unregulated disease patient emphasizes personality"  I can't "  , " whether I impossible "  , " I can not do "  ,They lack and judge and bear the ability of responsibility independently. Treat neurosis, much easier than to treat the unregulated disease of personality, because the former insists the question should be taken charge of by oneself, but not due to others and the society. It is comparatively difficult to cure the unregulated disease patient of personality, they think obstinately the question have nothing to do with oneself, others and external world is roots of the trouble. Many people have neurosis and unregulated disease of personality concurrently, is referred to as " personality neurosis " . At some questions, they take on others' responsibility on oneself, heart is full of guilty senses; On other problems, they have pushed it. Treat personality neurosis, it is difficult that may not be certain like imagining, cure its neurosis at first, can let patient to treating the confidence of establishing, accept doctor's suggestion, correct the unwilling psychology of bearing responsibility, dispel the origin with unregulated personality.

Nearly everybody suffers from intensity different neurosises or unregulated disease of personality, so, so long as see a doctor in time and benefit the psychological health. All one's life, correct to assess one's own role, judge should what people, what responsible for life, it is our responsibility, it is the question that can't be escaped either. Assess responsibility ownership, must let us feel agony, thus produce the inclination of avoiding. Proceed from heart, weigh, the party must introspect oneself, agony and torment among them, make many people hang back. It is obviously human natural instincts to love ease and hate work. In a certain meaning, all children suffer from personality and lack proper care, will escape punishing instinctively. Siblings fight, the adult investigates, they will shirk responsibility busily without end. Many children all suffer from a certain neurosis too. They have limited comprehension, will regard the suffering born as serving you right. Lack the child that cares about and feel unworthy, think oneself not lovely enough, the shortcoming is greater than the advantage, they will never expect, this is that an origin lacks love and treatment to parents. They are unable to be favored by opposite sex, or barely satisfactory in movement, suspect without exception too that has serious ability defects oneself. They are difficult to realize, even if the development is slow, intelligence is mediocre, they are still normal persons. Everybody needs experience for many years, lets intelligence be ripe constantly, can know oneself correctly, evaluate oneself and responsibility which others should bear objectively.

With children's growth, parents can offer help at any time. But if parents escape responsibility, even remind children: The problem is they suffer for one's act, but not do parents' responsibility. It will be difficult to meet demands of child. Certainly, opportunity educated to hold difficult, this for a long time but hard work, parents need to keep sensitive, understand the child's need, invest the time and energy, even bear the agony, parents will pay more love, will bear one's own responsibility.

Besides scarce and sensitive or ignore and educate, a lot of parents have other shortcomings. Neurosis patient with slight intensity, can fulfil the duties of parents, unless they have too big working pressure, so that is unable to fulfil for people parents' duty; Personality person who lack proper care incompetent parents mostly, but unconsciously I. The psychological educational circles have a kind of generally acknowledged statement: "The neurosis patient lets oneself be living and gets the agony, but the persons who lack proper care of personality let others live and get the agony. " That is to say, the neurosis patient takes on responsibility to oneself, make dog-tiredly; Personality but unregulated disease patient shift the blame someone else, the ones that stood in the breach are its children. They default parents' responsibility, do not give children love and care needed. The child's moral integrity or study goes wrong, they will never make a self-criticism, but impute to the education system, or complain and criticize other children, regarded as them "  Bring badly " One's own child. It is obviously inclined to escape responsibility to put the blame on sb. else. Parents often criticize children: "You children, are all driving me crazy! " " brat-packer you, I can with my father (mum) of you Get married! " "Your mother's neurasthenia, are all what you cause! " "If not in order to raise and look after you, I actually could finish college smoothly, do some great real undertakings. " They have offered models for the fact that the child will escape responsibility in the future, return such information to the child: "My unfortunately, my psychology of marriage is unhealthy, my life is extremely frustrated, it is totally your responsibility. " The child is unable to understand how unreasonable this kind of criticism is, impute responsibility to oneself, therefore has become the neurosis patient. So, parents have diagonosis of disorder of personality, the child will present the unregulated disease of personality or neurosis by oneself, the elder's question influences the future generation to grow up, this kind of situation is customary, offer as a gift and suffer from infinitely.

Suffer from to the parents with unregulated personality, is the model of the reverse side for whom the child established. Their condition, will influence the marriage, friend-making and undertaking too. They are unwilling to bear one's own responsibility, cause the question in life to be very heavy. Have said, should step forward bravely in the face of the question, otherwise they will exist forever in the front, the unregulated disease patient of personality totally deviates from this kind of method, can't help pushing responsibility to spouse, child, friend, parents, superior, or push away for other abstract things - --Bring " bad influence " Organization such as school, government, racial discrimination, sexism, social system, tendency of the day,etc., but the question exists all the time. When they shirk responsibility, may feel comfortable and delighted, but intelligence is unable to be ripe, often become the burdens of collective, the society. People 


One dose of unregulated diseases patient transfers agony to collective and the society on one's body, lets people remember the sixties of last century, Eldridge in the gram Buddha '  Afro-American's writer)  A sentence of popular words: "You can't solve the problem, you will become the problem  Mobile POS|Contactless POS|Fingerprint POS|Credit Card Terminal|Point of Sale. " In fact, this sentence was spoken to all people. 

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